Married at First Sight's Ryan Oubre Addresses His Divorce from Clara Berghaus.

On Wednesday, 29th Dec. 2021, Married at First sight's season 12 alum took to his Instagram to make a post to share the red flags that contributed to his divorce with Clara Berghaus.

Ryan and Clara told People in a statement that "It's not an easy decision to make, nor do we take these next steps lightly," They said: "We're grateful to all who stood by us, and continue to stand by us as we make this very difficult decision. It goes without saying, we remain friends and hope for nothing but the best for each other." Once the two got away from the cameras, they quickly came to the conclusion that their marriage was not meant to last. Neither of them have since gone into detail as to what actually caused this divorce.

It's been over five months since Ryan and Clara announced their breakup and left their fans wondering what went wrong with the union, but, both parties are ready to share their own side of the story.

After taking several months to reflect on a "very challenging moment" in his life, the Atlanta resident shed some light on why the relationship didn't work out, he said: "You can't truly be open to marry another race and not want to marry their culture (or at least at the minimum understand it)." He continued: "The Black experience and Black culture are not monolithic, there's no one size fits all shoe. It's ever-evolving and changing with time." While Ryan is Black, Clara is white. Ryan continued: "What I can say is: walking into a family gathering and not speaking to anyone and scrolling through your phone will never fly and declining food (outside of a food allergy or avoidance) because you don't like the way it looks won't help either….Choosing not to attempt to understand and educate yourself is a red flag." He added: "Please do not read this as an accusation of racism. It undoubtedly and most certainly is not," he said. "What it is though: it's an example of not understanding Black America."

Ryan acknowledged paticipating in a post-show marriage counseling for months with Clara but unfortunately, it wasn't enough to make things work. 

Ryan continued, "You need to at least attempt to understand the culture you married into. We avoided having these conversations on camera as I knew this was a complex topic and did not want it to seem as I was weaponizing the camera against her. I will own that—I intentionally derailed conversations or avoided them because I knew where it would go. We had enough of them off camera to know how it would go on camera." 

On 30th Dec., Clara took to Instagram to reveal that she would be sharing her side of the story in a special Married at First Sight Season 14 Kickoff special airing later that night on Lifetime.

"Every story has two sides. This is mine. Tonight at 8pm on @lifetimetv," she wrote. "I've spent the last six months of therapy, reflecting over my @mafslifetime experience and I've learned more than I could ever imagine. I never thought I would speak publicly about my divorce but I've realized that, while I don't owe anyone any explanations, I also don't owe anyone my silence."

Clara continued, "I went through hell and back the last 18 months and at this point I have to say, I'm so so proud of myself and how far I've come. And as nerve-wracking as this experience is, I know that telling my story will be integral to my healing process and let me tell you, I'm so ready to put all of this behind me."

Back in January, viewers watched Ryan and Clara meet for the first time at the altar and get married at first sight. Throughout the season, the newlyweds struggled with communication and intimacy. While they agreed to stay married on Decision Day—the show's finale—they eventually announced their breakup two months after the episode aired. 

Ryan wrote in his latest Instagram post: "When agreeing to a forever, having these deep rooted conversations are critical. Talking about what makes you, you, is important. Things like sex and the physical are also important but none of these things will sustain a relationship long term. Hearing more frustration over the lack of sex in the first two weeks than spiritual and mental compatibility were alarming."

Actually, both parties seem to agree on one thing and that is that they're ready to move on. 

Clara wrote: "Tonight marks the final end to this chapter of my life and has already provided me with so much closure." She said "Thank you to everyone who was there to pick up the pieces-you know who you are and I love you all so dearly."

Ryan added, "I made a promise to Clara's parents to be respectful of their daughter regardless of outcome and I intend to keep doing so."

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